Resentment and Despair

Nietzsche: I want to introduce the concept that I believe most sharply distinguishes productive suffering from its opposite. I call it ressentiment — a reactive, festering resentment toward those who are stronger, more vital, more capable of life. The person in ressentiment cannot strike back at the source of their suffering — cannot overcome it — and so they turn inward, cultivating hatred disguised as moral superiority, weakness disguised as virtue. They say: "Those who cause suffering are evil. I, who suffer, am good." This is not the response of a noble soul to pain. It is the revenge fantasy of the powerless. And I believe — I argued this in the Genealogy — that this resentment is the root of the entire slave moral tradition, including much of Christian ethics.

Kierkegaard: I have my own word for the failure you are describing: despair. In The Sickness Unto Death, I argued that despair is the fundamental human condition — not the despair of weeping and grief, but a deeper kind: the failure to be a self before God. There are many forms of it. One is the despair of not willing to be oneself — collapsing into the roles and opinions of the crowd, losing oneself in the social mirror. Another is the despair of willingly being oneself in defiance of God — what I called defiant despair, the person who insists on creating their own meaning, who refuses the relationship with the power that constituted them. I wonder, Nietzsche, whether your Übermensch is not a description of this second form.

Nietzsche: You are accusing my highest human type of being a form of spiritual disease. I accept the challenge. The Übermensch — the overman — is precisely the one who does not despair, in the ordinary sense, because he does not require what he does not have. He does not need God's validation, or society's approval, or the promise of an afterlife. He creates his own values from the abundance of his strength. You call this defiance. I call it health. The person who requires the relationship with an infinite God in order not to despair seems to me the more dependent, more vulnerable — and ultimately the more unstable — of the two.

Kierkegaard: And here we reach the heart of it. You describe strength as self-sufficiency — the capacity to need nothing outside oneself. I describe maturity as the capacity to stand in a relationship of absolute dependence on what constituted one, without that dependence being humiliation. In human terms: a child who pretends not to need its parents is not strong. It is afraid. The question is whether the universe is the kind of place where such a relationship — with something infinite and constituting — is possible. If it is not, then your self-sufficient overman is, as you say, the best available option. If it is, then the overman is a man who has refused a love he is not strong enough to accept.

Nietzsche: Or a man who has loved honestly — who has not accepted a consolation whose truth he cannot verify. I did not lose God easily. Do not assume the death of God was pleasant for the man who announced it. There is a suffering in intellectual honesty that your faith does not require — the suffering of standing in the void without reaching for a hand that may not be there. This too is a form of what I would call the noble life: not because it feels good, but because it is true to what one actually sees.

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